Well, I think it's possible that many unbelievers also pick and choose certain parts of the Bible, while also taking it out of context; because they mistakenly assume that Israel's old constitution would be applied today by Christians. But the New Testament is considered to be the dispensation of grace, and Jesus showed this by stopping the Jews from stoning the adulterous woman. So we live in a new era, which is why it's called the New Testament. BTW, both men and women were supposed to be stoned for adultery during the Old Testament. Not just women. Yet still, the days of the Old Testament were harsh, and sin was not a casual thing during that time.

No doubt, many women did not have the same privileges as men during the days of the Old Testament; but they were also supposed to be taken care of and looked after by their male counterparts. Even then, we look in the book of Judges and see that a female, by the name of Deborah, was anointed and chosen by G-d to be a Judge; and as result, she led the nation of Israel for 40 years. It's really kind of hard to argue against that point. We also see other women like Ruth and Esther playing important roles in the days of the Old Testament, even having their own books of the Bible named after them.

But like others have stated, the Bible clearly states that a man is to love a women as himself, just as Christ loves the church. It's a two way relationship, though some female libs don't like the idea of hearing that a wife is to submit herself to her husband. But we are talking about what is supposed to be a loving relationship, not an abusive one.