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Originally Posted by Troianii
It is a belittling term, but not necessarily an unfair one. The natural result of sex is pregnancy, the only reason why it's unexpected is because sex education has been used to make kids believe that contraception is a miracle that can really make them secure, but sex leads pregnancy. Saying that someone who had sex and expected never to get pregnant from it is equivocal to a professional fighter who fights in the ring every week but expects never to get hurt because they use gloves and padding for protection.  |
Incorrect sexual education would lead people to believe that contraception is a "miracle". It is also incorrect to lie to children and tell them that people are telling them contraception is a "miracle" and "fail proof" and they could always feel secure when using it when no one is saying that.
Contraception is protection. It is not 100% and no one ever tells anyone it is. If used correctly (these are the key words) your chances of getting pregnant and (depending on the method) contracting contagious diseases is
lowered not annihilated. Anyone who is going around saying "Well, they're telling you that if you use a condom then you'll never get pregnant but they're liars!" is lying and creating more of a problem because it makes people think that those who are out there to inform and help curb unwanted pregnancy, std spreads, and abortions are the "bad guys".
To use your little analogy..... are you telling me because the guy could get hurt even though he is wearing his protective gear, he should stop using it cuz it's worthless anyway? Cuz that's what the other side sounds like they're trying to say. And if the message is "No, I'm trying to say 'Stay out of the ring'" then once again I have to point out that this is the real world and not a fantasy.
People know they can get pregnant. They is why they use protection. It can still be quite unexpected when it happens especially when someone believes they have done all the right things. Again, I would be fairly shocked if I were to become pregnant right now. I have been on birth control since I was 16 years old and have even doubled-up on occasion. If I were to get pregnant it would be unexpected. And I'm sure I'm not the only female in the United States who has been using birth control methods for over 8 years who would be a little shocked if a test were to come back positive. The positive test does not mean "irresponsibility". It means "life happens" and you have yet more choices ahead of you. Whether they be "What color should we paint the nursery?" or "Am i financially, physically, and mentally capable of continuing with this?"